Posted by: joy.or.above | September 30, 2019

Be The Peace You Seek!


If there is Light in the Soul

Be The Peace You Seek!

The Constitution of the United Nations Educational, Scientific and Cultural Organization, states that:

“Since wars begin in the minds of men,
it is in the minds of men that
the defences of peace must be constructed.”

The UN International Day of Peace was established in 1981, and is celebrated on September 21.


Without inward order - K

Peace is The Way!

Peace must be found on the inside before it can manifest on the outside. To create a Peaceful World, we must cultivate Inner Peace. This is the only way. Peace comes about when we have Love in our heart. Love is the key to everything that is good and beautiful. When we have True Love in our heart, we will have Inner Peace.


How can you promote World Peace? 

The state of the world is a reflection of our relationships with each other, and the conflicts we have in the world are the results of how we behave and treat each other on daily basis.

“What can you do to promote world peace?
Go home and love your family.” ~
Mother Teresa

The problem is not the world

Be The Change!

As we do our inner work, we will see that our outer world begins to reflect the growth and expansion of our inner world.

This enables us to take more intelligent actions, and make better choices that help sustain Peace as we interact with what life brings us each day.

Here are some simple ways to make the world more Peaceful:

  • Make a personal commitment to Be the Peace You seek, and to do No harm.

  • Meditate daily, even if only for 3 minutes.

  • Treat Life with Reverence and Sacredness.

  • Reduce your carbon foot print: walk or bike, car pool, recycle, eat more fruits and vegetables.

  • Forgive!

  • Make new friends, start a community project, or social activities.

  • Be kind and helpful to others whenever you can.

  • Volunteer in projects that help others or promote Peace.

  • Join an organization that promotes Peace.

  • Write a blog post / or an article / or on social media about Peace.

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My Wish for You:

May You Be Happy!
May You Be Healthy!
May You Be Safe!
May You Be Free!
May You Live with Ease!
May You Be at Peace!


Zafira Labadi
Happiness & Wellness Coach

The photos in this article are by Mr. Friedrich Grohe,
and used by permission. To see and / or purchase his beautiful photos,

please go to his website:

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Posted by: joy.or.above | July 30, 2019

The Importance of Friendship!

The Importance of Friendship!

Happy UN International Day of Friendship!


Each Friend represents a world


The International Day of Friendship is a United Nations (UN) Day that promotes the role that friendship plays in promoting Peace. It is celebrated on 30 July.

Why Friendships are Important to Us?

Historically, we needed communities to survive, to protect ourselves in the wilderness, and to feel safe. As a species, we are social beings; we need to have the sense of belonging; we learn, we grow and we thrive within communities and in relationships with other people. Contrary to a common belief, we are wired to cooperate, to be kind and to help each other. Science tells us that it is in our DNA. It is important for our well-being physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.

On an individual level, researchers have found that the relationships we have affect our happiness, our health and the quality of our life. That happy people have more friends and social connections. And that the more connections we have, the happier we are. A growing body of evidence shows that people who have good friendships and strong social support groups are healthier and happier, and that they are less likely to become ill and more likely to recover faster if they do suffer from an illness. In addition to that, people with more social contacts are less likely to suffer from a cognitive decline.

On the other hand, researchers have found that people with few or no friendships are more likely to feel depressed; and may have a heart attack and die sooner as a result.

The evidence is clear: our life is much better when we have friends!


Let us be grateful to the people

Why are Friends so Good for Us?

Health-wise, friends encourage us to do what is good for us: eat better, exercise, and take care of ourselves. Good friends listen to us, love us, care about us; and cheer us up when we are down. We stress less when we have friends who support us and help us along the way.


The problem is not the world

How does Friendship help promote World Peace?

On a global level, the state of the world is a reflection of our relationships with each other: the governments, the politics, and the conflicts we have in the world are the results of how we treat one another on daily basis.


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Be The Change!

We all want to change the world, and especially other people. We tend to forget that the only person we can control, and therefore change, is our self, and our behavior towards other people; and that is all we need to do to change the world.

Furthermore, the relationships we have with other people, and our behaviour, is a reflection of ourselves; the state of our mind; our inner state of being.

Do what you can, with what you have, wherever you are!


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What You Do Matters!

Everything you do, no matter how small, makes a difference. So you must take full responsibility for your own life; for the thoughts you think; for your emotions; for the words you speak and use daily; and for your actions. 

Even though we can’t change other people, however, we can influence them by our acts of kindness: a smile, a kind word, an act of generosity. When you do acts of kindness, you uplift people’s Spirit, and it is guaranteed that it will make you Happier.

Be Kind Whenever it is possible!

“No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.”– Aesop


If there is Light in the Soul


How You Make a Difference!

When you raise your own Consciousness, you raise the Consciousness of the Entire World (and possibly the Entire Universe). When enough people do that, when we reach the tipping point, the 1% of the population, we will bring about World Peace!

Remember: what you focus on, you give it your energy, and so it expands and grows and therefore affects the entire world.


Only if we understand

Why You Need to Understand!

When you understand the role that you play as an individual in the state of the world we live in; and I hope that you do; it is more likely that you care enough to do your part to help, so that we can all together save the world and live in Peace.

Be Grateful for Your Friends!

Go ahead; appreciate, cherish, and celebrate your friends, and all the people in your life, on this UN Friendship Day, and all throughout the year. Reach out to your old friends; make new friends; join groups of like-minded people; volunteer; help those in need; and be kind to everyone you meet!

Remember: to have a good friend, you must be a good friend.


May good and faithful friends be yours


My Wish for You:

“May love and laughter light your days, and warm your heart and home.

May good and faithful friends be yours, wherever you may roam.

May peace and plenty bless your world with joy that long endures.

May all life’s passing seasons bring the best to you and yours!”

An Old Irish Blessing


Happy Friendship Day!

Zafira Labadi
Happiness & Wellness Coach




The photos in this article are by Mr. Friedrich Grohe, and used by permission. To see and purchase any of his beautiful photos,
please go to his website:

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Posted by: joy.or.above | March 6, 2019

Happy March and UN Happiness Day!

Happy March

Happy March
Happy UN International Day of Happiness!

March is full of Happy Occasions. One of the good Happiness Habits that you can cultivate to increase your own Happiness is to celebrate more: celebrate the Happy Occasions, celebrate what is good and what is working in your life; your successes and what you have achieved so far; and most importantly, celebrate the special people in your life. Here are a list of the Happy Occasions happening in March, and simple ways to celebrate them.

iwd_58 March: International Women’s Day!

International Women’s Day (IWD) is a global day celebrating the economic, political and social achievements of women. IWD first emerged from the activities of labour movements in the beginning of the twentieth century in North America and Europe. In 1908, about 15,000 women marched through New York City demanding shorter hours, better pay and voting rights; women have fought for equality. Three years later, in 1911, the first International Women’s Day was held.  However, the United Nations began celebrating International Women’s Day on 8 March during International Women’s Year, in 1975. International Women’s Day is a time to reflect on progress made, to call for change, and to celebrate acts of courage and determination by ordinary women living an extraordinary life in their communities.

Women's Day

Celebrate and honor all the special women and females in your life on Women’s Day: invite them to your home or take them out; cook a special dish for them; help with the daily chores at home; buy them a small gift, like flours for example; and/or send them a handwritten letter or postcard expressing your love, appreciation and gratitude.

Happy International Women’s Day
to all the Women in the World!

20 March: UN International Day of Happiness.  

In July 2011, the UN General Assembly adopted a resolution which recognized happiness as a “fundamental human goal” and called for “a more inclusive, equitable and balanced approach to economic growth that promotes … happiness and well-being of all people.

In April 2012, the first UN conference on Happiness was held in New York. In July 2012, the UN General Assembly adopted a resolution which declared that the International Day of Happiness will be observed on 20 March every year. It was celebrated for the first time in 2013. This was a major shift in people’s attitudes, as they are starting to recognize that increasing Happiness and Well-Being is as important as economic growth. 

The resolution was initiated by Bhutan, a country which recognized the value of national Happiness over national income since the early 1970s, and famously adopted the goal of Gross National Happiness over Gross National Product. It also hosted a High Level Meeting on “Happiness and Well-Being: Defining a New Economic Paradigm” during the sixty-sixth session of the General Assembly.

UN Int Happiness Day 3

Take some time to reflect on what you can do to increase your own Happiness and Well-Being; write a list of all the things that you can do that make you truly Happy, choose one thing, and do it.

To learn about the Science of Happiness and how you can use the tools and techniques that it provides that will help you increase your own Happiness, feel free to send an email to or call +962-7-77225590

Happy International Day of Happiness! 


20 March: Spring
(Autumn in the southern hemisphere).

The Spring Equinox, falls this year on March 20, 2019, marks the astronomical first day of Spring in the Northern Hemisphere. The word equinox comes from the Latin words for “equal night” —aequus (equal) and nox (night). On the equinox, the length of day and night is nearly equal in all parts of the world.  With the equinox, you can enjoy the increasing sunlight hours, with earlier dawns and later sunsets.

Crocus field springSpend some time in Nature. Plant a tree, or any plants you like; buy some flowers or plants and give them as gifts to your family members and friends.

Happy Spring/Autumn Equinox!

Happy Mothers Day Images Download21 March: Mother’s Day. 

Mother’s Day is a celebration honoring the Mother of the family, as well as motherhood, maternal bonds, and the influence of mothers in society. It is celebrated on various days in many parts of the world, most commonly in the months of March or May. Many countries celebrate Mother’s Day on 21 March.

Happy Mothers Day Images 2018
Celebrate and honor your Mother and all the special women and females in your life, including grandmothers, great-grandmothers,
foster mothers, stepmothers,  aunts, sisters and daughters. Invite them to your home or take them out; cook a meal for them; help with the daily chores at home; buy them a small gift, like flours; give them a handwritten letter, or postcard expressing your love, appreciation and gratitude. 

Happy Mother’s Day
to all the Mothers, everywhere!

22 March: UN World Water Day.

World Water Day is an annual UN observance day that highlights the importance of freshwater. The day is used to advocate for the sustainable management of freshwater resources. World Water Day is celebrated around the world with a variety of events. These can be educational, theatrical, musical or lobbying in nature.

Water is essential for Life; in fact Water is Life. More than 70% of your body (and the Earth) is Water.

“Somewhere along the way, we have forgotten how to show our appreciation for water.”

“Water has a secret life. It shows us how to find Happiness. It reveals the meaning of Love and Nature. It shows us the path that humankind must take to find the answers you seek.”

World Water Day - 22 March

“Water carries within it your thoughts and your prayers.” ~ Masaru Emoto

Whenever you can, take a moment and Bless the Water.

Say: Thank You Water!
I Love You!

May You Always Be Happy; & May You make Your Happiness a Priority in Your Life!

Zafira Labadi
Happiness & Wellness Coach
Committed to Helping You
Lead a Happier life!

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To boost your Happiness, listen to this uplifting song

“Happy” ~ by Pharell Williams

and Clap along if you feel like Happiness is the Truth“!

Posted by: joy.or.above | December 25, 2018

Happy Holidays!

Happy Holidays!

Blessed is the season

I wish for you to Be Happy, Content and Prosperous!
I wish you Good Health, a Warm Home, plenty of Joy, Laughter and Happiness; and close Friends and Loved ones, with whom you can share your many Blessings!
And above all, I wish you Peace in your Heart and in your World.

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Merry Christmas in 5 languages

I wish you a Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays,
and a Wonderful Peaceful New Year 2019,
filled with Love, Joy, and inner Peace!

 أتمنى لكم عطلة سعيدة وعيد ميلاد مجيد
وسنة جديدة رائعة مليئة بالمحبة والفرح والسلام 

Happy New Year

May You make Being Happy Your Highest Priority in 2019!


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Zafira Labadi

Happiness & Wellness Coach,
Committed to Helping You Live
Happier and Healthier

For more information about
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Happiness Book Club!

If you love reading educational books and would like to study The Science of Happiness, join the Happiness Book Club — please note that all books and books summaries are in English.

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Feel-Good Movie Club!

If you love watching good movies and discussing them with a small group of like-minded people, join the Feel-Good Movie Club. The films are Beautiful, Uplifting and Educational — please note that all films are in English or with English subtitles. 

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Posted by: joy.or.above | November 11, 2018



The Two Wolves within



There is a native Indian-American story that goes like this:

“One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, “My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all.

One is evil: it is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

The other is Good: It is Joy, Peace, Love, Hope, Serenity, Humility, Kindness, Benevolence, Empathy, Generosity, Truth, Compassion and Faith.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf wins?”

The old Cherokee replied, “The one you feed.””

This story illustrates very beautifully the two parts within all of us:
The first one is Your True Self,
Your Higher Self, Your Soul.  It is All-Knowing, Loving and Wise. 
 It Knows what is best for you; and if you listen to It and follow Its guidance, It will always lead you to the Truth, the Good, and the Beautiful. It is the path of Love, Joy, and Inner Peace. It speaks to you in a gentle, soft, kind, and loving way. It speaks to you through your Intuition, your Gut-feelings, your Inner-Knowing. It is what is often referred to in the Scriptures as the Small Still Voice for God.

The second part is your ego, your small self. It speaks out of fear, greed, guilt and lack. It keeps you busy thinking about the past — what you did and didn’t do — and it keeps you worrying about the future. If you follow it, it tells you to do the wrong things, and then punishes you for doing them; it sabotages your happiness and success, and blames you for your failures. It is the voice that tells you that “you are not good enough and / or unworthy“. It is the self-pity voice that says “poor little me.”  It is the self-centered, egoistic and materialistic mind-set that controls and dominates the thinking of most people, which led to all the crises we face today.

How to tell which part is speaking to you at any moment?
If it comes from Love, it is the Voice of Your Higher Self: Its Nature is Unconditional Love; and It feeds only on Love: It thinks, speaks and acts out of Love only.

If the voice comes from fear; it is the voice of your ego; it feeds and thrives on your fears. It speaks first and speaks the loudest.

How to stop feeding the ego?
Stop engaging in its drama. Stop all blame, shame, guilt or hate thoughts. Stop judging others; stop engaging in gossip, or meaningless activities; never use harsh words, or do harm. You also need to take good care of yourself physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually; otherwise, your ego will use your weakness against you.  

To hear the Voice of Your True Self, you need to be able to quiet your mind.  Meditation, Mindfulness and Being Aware of the automatic negative thoughts that pass by in your mind throughout the day will help tremendously. These skills can be learned, and the more you practice them, the stronger the Voice of Your True Self becomes, and the easier it becomes to hear It and follow Its guidance. The more you listen, the clearer it gets and the stronger your intuitive senses become. 

Wherever you are in your life; and whatever your goals are — whether it is to improve your health, to advance your career, or to have a more meaningful life —  overcoming your ego and its automatic negative thoughts, which holds you back from reaching your full potential, is vital for your True Happiness, Success and Inner Peace.



Want to learn how to connect with your Wiser Self, and have more control over your ego and its automatic negative thoughts, so that you can have more Love, Joy, and Inner Peace in Your Life? Enroll in one of the Mastering The Three Levels of Happiness Coaching  Programs! You will learn the skills that will help you follow your Inner Joy, Everyday.

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May You always Be Happy, Healthy and Peaceful!

True happiness lies within


Zafira Labadi
Happiness & Wellness Coach
Committed to Helping You Live Happier & Healthier!

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Posted by: joy.or.above | September 29, 2018

The Compass and the Ego

The Compass and the Ego


Written by Chris Mirana / Fa Chao Shakya

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A compass is a navigational instrument with a magnetized pointer that aligns itself with the earth’s magnetic field, always pointing north. We have used the compass for millennia to find our way. It’s been used by seafarers, explorers, and travellers alike to help get from one place to another. When we lose our way, we pull out our compass, get our bearings, then find the path again. But our journey as a human being is also a journey of the mind, of the psyche, and of the spirit. How do we navigate these other waters when there is no ocean’s surface that allows us to use a tool such as a compass? Well, a compass may be useless in these situations, but it serves as a good analogy for an essential aspect of the spiritual journey, for we do need a compass – without one we’ll get lost just as surely as an ancient sailor would get lost without knowledge of the sky, the compass, and the sextant.

To understand how to use our spiritual compass, let’s look at how we use a physical compass. First, when we lose our way, we know we can find out which direction to take by using the compass, that is, we have faith that the compass will help us get back on track. We know that to guess or to choose based on what we think is the right direction is not as good an option as looking at the compass and letting it tell us. So we look at the compass and follow exactly the bearings it gives. We have confidence that the compass will point us in the correct direction and that by following its guidance we will arrive safely at our intended destination.

When we get lost we do nothing but look at the compass. We make no choices of our own – we let the compass make the choice for us because we know how to read it and we have faith in it. This is an essential thing to remember as we tread a spiritual path. We must use only the spiritual compass and let nothing interfere with it. If we start guessing, assuming we know better than the compass, then at best we’ll stay lost, and at worst, we’ll perish. We must leave the ego behind in order to proceed with the right attitude that will allow us to use our compass.

But what would a “spiritual compass” be? To know it, we must first understand the ego, for as long as the ego holds the high seat, our spiritual compass is completely invisible.

Why does the ego not allow us access to the compass? Why does it confuse us and cause us to make the wrong decisions? After all, if it didn’t misguide us so often, then we wouldn’t need to talk about “finding our compass” in the first place.

Many Zen teachers have spoken of the ego and its destructive nature when left to its own devices. They tell us that the fundamental Principle of the Universe — Buddha Mind or Buddha Nature or Self Nature — governs all: the entire cosmos of which we are part. Buddha Mind is not, as some mistakenly suggest, our individual soul.

As we begin to embark on our spiritual journey Self Nature is unconscious – that is, we do not consciously, or knowingly, recognize it. But unconsciously we do. Self Nature manifests as thought in our conscious lives but it does not remain in thought because it is not fixed. We only get glimpses of it now and again, and most often we pay it no attention. The act of making it fully conscious, recognizable to us in every moment, is what the Spiritual path is all about: it is the destination of any spiritual journey.

The Buddha Self uses ‘form’ to manifest in this world but It has no attachment to form. So in manifesting as form It remains non-abiding. No where. To be in-tune with Buddha Nature, from moment to moment in our lives, we too must have a mind that is non-abiding, that is, nowhere fixed.

Ultimate Reality, or the Principal of All that Is, manifests within us and acts on us – on the mind, on the body, on all aspects of our lives. Through Reality, the mind apperceives itself: it becomes conscious of its own consciousness.

It is exactly this “being conscious of our own consciousness” that gives rise to the ego – to “I Am-ness,” to Descartes famous exclamation: “I think, therefore I am.”

In this way, the Unconscious becomes conscious of itself and an urge for assertion arises.

But what’s the point? Why does this happen? This urge for assertion which manifests the ego has been, throughout the millennia, necessary for our day-to-day survival. It has kept us safe from the sabre-toothed tiger, allowed us to form societies, protect our families and communities from attacks, encouraged us to grow wiser and more cunning – all of which have promoted the continuation of our species. In fact, without ego, without this urge for assertion, we could not do the simplest functions of daily living, like driving a car or finding our way back home or cooking our food. We need the ego, but we need more to be happy, to be content – we need a direct connection with the source of the ego.

What happens when we don’t have that connection?

To function in our daily life, the apperceiving mind in its egoistic state uses the brain, in which all the 5 senses (skandas) and consciousness coordinate and communicate. The ego, now a master-at-large, has a wonderful machine (body), which functions obediently in response to its urges. In this role, the ego, which is without a Self (without Universal Knowledge), urges us on in carrying out those mundane tasks which constitute our daily life. The ego functions through the material process of thought which uses memory to guide it. This is its mechanical movements, and they are always derived from experiential images of the past.

Unfortunately for the ego, in carrying out and perfecting these routine tasks it ignorantly considers itself capable of resolving everything, not only the mundane and material problems of our daily lives but all of our problems! It attempts to solve new mental or psychological problems that arise daily in our lives because solving problems is all it knows how to do. Yet, because it can only operate from the point of view of past experience, the ego struggles hopelessly to resolve problems that are outside its domain of knowledge – outside of its realm of past experience. The ego knows nothing of spirituality, nothing of God, of Buddha Nature, Adoni, Bhagavan, Brahman, parama-Isvara, Rama, Ek Onkar, Waheguru, Nirankar, Aten, Mithras, Yahweh, Yehoshûa , Allah, Yezdan , Abraxas, Cao Ðà?i, Akua, Tenchi-Kane-no-Kami, Mioya-Ookami, Ahura Mazda, or any of the other thousands of names for Ultimate Reality that cultures around the globe have given It. Yet, despite the stronghold of the ego, the ubiquitous quality of All that Is has been perceived by all cultures throughout recorded history, a knowledge that cannot be known through the ego; the personal, isolated self, for the more it tries to comprehend it, the harder it gets, the greater the confusion becomes, and the greater and longer suffering endures.

We need to recognize that mental (emotional or psychological) problems are not the same as material problems and that they require different solutions. If a car breaks down, a mechanic uses memory and applies thought to carry out the repairs. But when faced with emotional problems, the ego cannot use thought, which is of the past, to resolve them. Emotional problems are complex in nature and require a different approach – an approach that is built on a spiritual foundation.

The reason this is so is because the ego always works to resolve a new problem with a past solution; consequently, it naturally falls into dualistic conflicts and it becomes muddled by an unending stream of disconnected thoughts which obscure the clarity of truth. Trying endlessly to solve the problem, it has no success and succumbs to fear; in a state of fear it becomes further trapped in its own confusion; confusion leads to pain and sorrow; pain and sorrow lead to frustration and anger; frustration and anger lead to despair and violence. We cycle downward into an ever increasing pit of hell, all because the ego operates in the darkness of its own ignorance about that which has given rise to it.

This is when we most need a guide — something to help us up and out of the pit. This is when we need a spiritual compass.

Once the ego sees that it has derived its conscious “mind” from the Unconscious Mind it stops dead in its tracks. It remains silent. It stops all attempts to manipulate things because it realises its own futility in this area. In this silence it makes no movements. This silence and stillness (non-doing/non-action) flow from the Principle of All that Is, from Buddha Mind.

The Buddha Mind is itself the pointer, the spiritual compass. As we work to create a spacious mind, spontaneously a discovery takes place that leaves us silent – it leaves us quiet and receptive. In normal daily life, the ego finds its way, but through this discovery there is a newfound harmony in life. There is peace and happiness.

Through the awakening experience we call satori, we find our compass and our spiritual journey proceeds with the confidence of a master mariner at sea.



Guest writer:

Chris Mirana / Fa Chao Shakya

This article was originally published on 15 June 2009
At the Eye of Chan website:

Here is the link to the original article:

Republished with permission.

* Translated into Arabic by Zafira Labadi, (below).



البوصلة والأنا


  من تأليف كريس ميرانا

البوصلة هي أداة ملاحية بمؤشر ممغنط يستجيب للحقل المغناطيسي للأرض، ويشير دائمًا نحو الشمال. لقد استخدمنا البوصلة لآلاف السنين لإيجاد طريقنا. تم استخدامها من قبل البحارة والمستكشفين والمسافرين على حد سواء لمساعدتهم في التنقل من مكان إلى آخر. عندما نضل طريقنا، نخرج البوصلة، نحدد موقعنا، ثم نجد الطريق مرة أخرى. لكن رحلتنا في الحياة كإنسان هي أيضاً رحلة للعقل، وللنفس، وللروح. كيف نتنقل في هذه المحيطات الأخرى عندما لا يكون هنالك سطح يسمح لنا باستخدام أداة مثل البوصلة؟ قد تكون البوصلة عديمة الجدوى في هذه المواقف، ولكنها بمثابة تشبيه جيد لجانب أساسي من الرحلة الروحية، لأننا نحتاج إلى بوصلة – دونها سوف نضل الطريق تماما مثل بحار قديم ليس لديه معرفة بالنجوم، والبوصلة ، وآلة السدس

لفهم كيفية استخدام بوصلتنا الروحية، دعونا ننظر إلى كيفية استخدامنا للبوصلة الفعلية. أولاً، عندما نضل طريقنا، نحن نعلم أنه بإمكاننا معرفة الاتجاه الذي يجب إتباعه باستخدام البوصلة، أي أننا على ثقة بأن البوصلة ستساعدنا في العودة إلى المسار الصحيح. نحن نعلم أن التخمين أو الاختيار على أساس ما نعتقد أنه الاتجاه الصحيح ليس خيارًا جيدًا مثل الاستعانة بالبوصلة. لذلك نحن ننظر إلى البوصلة ونتبع بالضبط الاتجاه الذي تشير إليه. لدينا ثقة بأن البوصلة ستشير إلى الاتجاه الصحيح وأنه بإتباع توجيهاتها سنصل بأمان إلى وجهتنا المقصودة

عندما نضل الطريق نحن لا نفعل شيئا سوى النظر إلى البوصلة. نحن لا نتخذ أية خيارات – نترك البوصلة لتختار لنا لأننا نعرف كيف نقرأها ونثق بها. من الضروري تذكر ذلك حين نتخذ طريقًا روحيًا. يجب أن نستخدم البوصلة الروحية فقط وان لا ندع أي شيء يتعارض معها. إذا بدأنا في التخمين، مفترضين أننا نعرف أفضل من البوصلة، فإننا سنبقى تائهين في أفضل الأحوال، وفي أسوأ الأحوال، سوف نفنى. يجب أن نترك الأنا جانبا من أجل المضي قدما متخذين الموقف الصحيح الذي سيسمح لنا باستخدام بوصلتنا

لكن ماذا ستكون “البوصلة الروحية”؟ لمعرفة ذلك، يجب علينا أولا أن نفهم الأنا، فطالما أن الأنا في المقعد الأمامي، فان بوصلتنا الروحية تكون غير مرئية تماما

لماذا لا يسمح لنا الأنا بالوصول إلى البوصلة؟ لماذا يربكنا ويجعلنا نتخذ قرارات خاطئة؟ في نهاية المطاف، إذا لم يكن قد ضللنا في كثير من الأحيان، فلن نحتاج للحديث عن “العثور على بوصلتنا” في المقام الأول

تحدث العديد من معلمي الزن عن الأنا وطبيعته المدمرة عندما يتُرك لفعل ما يشاء. يخبروننا أن المبدأ الأساسي للكون – عقل بوذا أو طبيعة بوذا أو طبيعة الذات – يحكم كل شيء: الكون كله الذي نحن جزء منه. عقل بوذا، ليس كما يقترح البعض خطأ، روحنا الفردية

عندما نبدأ رحلتنا الروحية، فإن طبيعة الذات غير واعية – أي أننا لا ندركها بوعي أو عن معرفة. لكن في اللاوعي نحن ندركها. تظهر طبيعة الذات كالفكر في حياتنا الواعية لكنها لا تبقى في الفكر لأنها غير ثابتة. نحن نلمحها فقط من حين إلى آخر، وفي أغلب الأحيان لا نبدي أي اهتمام بها. إن جعلها واعية تماما، وإدراكها في كل لحظة، هو أساس المسار الروحي: إنه وجهة أية رحلة روحية

تستخدم ذات بوذا “جسد” للتعبير في هذا العالم، ولكنها لا تتعلق بالشكل. لذلك رغم ظهورها كجسد فهي تبقى غير ثابتة. لا مكان. لكي نكون منسجمين مع طبيعة بوذا، من لحظة إلى أخرى في حياتنا، يجب أن يكون لدينا عقل غير ثابت، في أي مكان

الحقيقة المطلقة، أو مبدأ كل ما هو موجود، تتجلى في داخلنا وتتصرف من خلالنا – من خلال العقل والجسد وفي جميع جوانب حياتنا. من خلال الواقع، العقل يدرك ذاته: يصبح واعيًا انه واع

هذا بالضبط “الوعي بوعينا” الذي يؤدي إلى وجود الأنا — “أنا موجود”، وإلى تعبير ديكارت الشهير: أنا أفكر، إذن أنا موجود

بهذه الطريقة، يصبح اللاوعي مدركاً لذاته، وينتج عن ذلك رغبة في تأكيد الذات

لكن ما الهدف؟ لماذا يحدث هذا؟ هذه الرغبة في تأكيد الذات أدت إلى ظهور الأنا، حيث كان على مدى آلاف السنين، ضروريا لبقائنا على قيد الحياة. لقد أبقانا في مأمن من النمر، وسمح لنا بتكوين مجتمعات، وحماية عائلاتنا وقبائلنا من الهجمات، وشجعنا على النمو لنكون أكثر حكمة وأكثر دهاءً – كل ذلك أدى إلى استمرار الجنس البشرى. في الواقع، دون الأنا، ودون هذه الرغبة في تأكيد الذات، لما كنا تمكنا من القيام بأبسط وظائف الحياة اليومية، مثل قيادة السيارة أو إيجاد طريقنا إلى المنزل أو طهي طعامنا. نحن بحاجة إلى الأنا، لكننا نحتاج إلى المزيد لنكون سعداء وراضين – نحتاج إلى اتصال مباشر بمصدر الأنا

ماذا يحدث عندما لا يكون لدينا اتصال مباشر؟

من أجل القيام بإعمالنا الحياتية اليومية، يستخدم العقل الواعي في حالته الأنانية الدماغ، حيث تقوم جميع الحواس الخمس والوعي بالتنسيق والتواصل. الأنا، الآن كسيد ماهر، لديه آلة رائعة (جسد)، يستجيب بطاعة لرغباته. في هذا الدور، يحثنا الأنا، الذي بلا ذات (دون معرفة كونية)، على تنفيذ تلك المهام الدنيوية التي تشكل حياتنا اليومية. يعمل الأنا من خلال عملية التفكير المادية التي تستخدم الذاكرة لتوجيهه. هذه هي حركاته الميكانيكية، وهي دائما مشتقة من تجارب الماضي

لسوء حظ الأنا، في تنفيذ هذه المهام الروتينية وإتقانها، يعتقد جاهلا انه قادر على حل كل شيء، ليس فقط المشاكل المادية والدنيوية في حياتنا اليومية ولكن جميع مشاكلنا! يحاول حل المشاكل العقلية أو النفسية الجديدة التي تنشأ يومياً في حياتنا لأن حل المشاكل هو كل ما يستطيع القيام به. ومع ذلك، لأنه لا يمكن أن يعمل إلا من وجهة نظر الماضي، يكافح الأنا يائسا لحل المشاكل التي تقع خارج نطاق معرفته – خارج نطاق خبرته السابقة. الأنا لا يعرف شيئا عن الروحانية، لا شيء عن الله، عن طبيعة بوذا، أدوني، البهاغافان، البراهمي، باراما-إسفارا، راما، إيك أونكار، واهيجورو، نيرانكار، آتون، ميثراس، يهوه، يهوشع، يزدان، أبراكساس، …… أو أي من آلاف الأسماء الأخرى التي أعطتها الثقافات المختلفة في جميع أنحاء العالم للحقيقة المطلقة. ومع ذلك، وعلى الرغم من سيطرة الأنا، فإن خاصية كلي الوجود للكون كان شيئا مدركًا من قبل جميع الثقافات طوال التاريخ المسجل للإنسانية، وهذا لا يمكن معرفته من خلال الأنا؛ النفس الفردية، المعزولة، فكلما حاول فهمها، كلما ازدادت صعوبة، وازداد الارتباك، وزادت المعاناة وطالت

نحن بحاجة إلى إدراك أن المشاكل العقلية (العاطفية أو النفسية) ليست مثل المشاكل المادية وأنها تتطلب حلولاً مختلفة. إذا تعطلت سيارة، يستخدم ميكانيكي الذاكرة ويطبق التفكير لإجراء الإصلاحات. لكن عند مواجهه مشاكل عاطفية، لا يستطيع الأنا استخدام الفكر، وهو من الماضي، لحلها. المشاكل العاطفية معقدة بطبيعتها وتتطلب نهجا مختلفا – نهجا مبني على أساس روحي

السبب في ذلك هو أن الأنا يعمل دائمًا على حل مشكلة جديدة من خلال حل سابق؛ وبالتالي، فإنه من الطبيعي أن يقع في صراعات ثنائية ويصبح مشوشًا بتيار لا ينتهي من الأفكار المتقطعة التي تحجب وضوح الحقيقة. رغم محاولاته ألانهائية لحل المشكلة، فهو لا يحقق النجاح وبالتالي يستسلم للخوف؛ في حالة من الخوف يصبح أكثر ارتباكا؛ الارتباك يؤدي إلى الألم والحزن؛ الألم والحزن يؤدي إلى الإحباط والغضب؛ الإحباط والغضب يؤدي إلى اليأس والعنف. نحن نتدحرج نحو الأسفل إلى حفرة من الجحيم المتزايد، كل ذلك لأن الأنا يعمل في ظلام جهله بذلك الذي أدى إلى وجوده

هذا هو الوقت الذي نحتاج فيه إلى دليل – شيء يساعدنا على الخروج من الحفرة. عندها نحتاج إلى بوصلة روحية

بمجرد أن يدرك الأنا أنه استمد “عقله” الواعي من العقل اللاواعي فإنه يتوقف تماما في مساره. يبقى صامتا. يوقف جميع المحاولات للتلاعب بالأشياء لأنه يدرك عدم جدواه في هذا المجال. في هذا الصمت لا يقوم بأي حركة. هذا الصمت والسكون (دون حركة) يتدفقان من مبدأ كل ما هو موجود، من عقل بوذا

عقل بوذا هو نفسه المؤشر، البوصلة الروحية. وبينما نعمل على خلق عقل واسع، يحدث اكتشاف بشكل عفوي يتركنا صامتين – يتركنا هادئين ومتقبلين. في الحياة اليومية العادية، يجد الأنا طريقه، ولكن من خلال هذا الاكتشاف هنالك انسجام جديد في الحياة. هنالك سلام وسعادة

من خلال تجربة الصحوة التي نسميها ساتوري، نجد بوصلتنا وتستمر رحلتنا الروحية بثقة بحار ماهر في البحر


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May All Beings Be Happy

May You Be Happy!

Posted by: joy.or.above | April 22, 2015

Happy Earth Day!

Happy Earth Day!


Plant a Tree for Earth Day


April 22 is Earth Day, and this year it marks the 45th anniversary of what is considered by many the birth of the modern environmental movement that started in April 1970, which focuses on raising awareness by putting environmental concerns up front and center.


I invite you to be a part of Earth Day to help build a clean, healthy, diverse world for generations to come. The possibilities for getting involved are endless! Volunteer. Plant a Tree. Install solar panels on your roof. Reduce your consumption. Avoid using plastic and wasting resources. Recycle: Return hangers to the cleaners; donate clothing and computers to charities; use reusable bags and containers.  Use recycled items whenever possible like for example recycled chlorine-free paper. Use energy saving bulbs. Choose cleaning products that are natural and eco-friendly. You can reduce emissions by sharing a car, using public transportation, riding a bike, or walking when possible. Organize an event in your community. Help launch a community garden. Communicate your priorities to your elected representatives. Do something nice for the Earth, have fun, meet new people, and make a difference.


More importantly, keep doing these things! Earth Day is Every Day! To build a better future, we must commit to living responsibly year-round.  

Remember, people need the Earth for air,
water, food, and for their existence!

People Need Nature;
Nature Doesn’t Need People!


Happy Earth Day!


Earth Day

Zafira Labadi
Happiness & Wellness Coach

Committed to Helping You
Lead a Happier life!
For more information about
The Art & Science of
Happiness Coaching Program

Call: +962-7-77225590



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Nature Is Speaking – Julia Roberts is Mother Nature



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Nature Is Speaking – Robert Redford is The Redwood


Nature Is Speaking – Lupita Nyong’o is Flower


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Posted by: joy.or.above | October 31, 2012

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Posted by: joy.or.above | August 18, 2012

The Happiness Creed!

The Happiness Creed!

By BJ Gallagher

I believe that Happiness is my Birthright,
as well as my Responsibility;
and I commit to Claiming it.

I believe that Happiness is Here and Now;
and I commit to Awakening to it.

I believe that Happiness is a Choice;
and I commit to Choosing it.

I believe that Happiness is a Habit;
and I commit to Cultivating it.

I believe that Happiness is Free,
like rainbows, sunshine and air;
and I commit to Reveling in it.

I believe that Happiness is Always Available,
no matter what others are doing;
and I commit to Creating it.

I believe that Happiness is an Inside Job,
not dependent on money, fame, or possessions;
and I commit to Living it.

I believe that Happiness is an Attitude of Gratitude;
and I commit to Giving Thanks.

I believe that Happiness is in Action;
and I commit to Generating it.

I believe that Happiness is Contagious;
and I commit to Sharing it.

I believe that Happiness is a Prayer,
uniting me with the Universe;
and I commit to Offering it.

I believe that Happiness is my Calling –
I Must Be the Happiness I Wish to See in the World.


To learn how to cultivate more Joy and Wisdom in Your Life,
Enroll in one of the Art & Science of Happiness Coaching Programs!
Call or email to schedule a free Consultation Session!
You will learn new ways to increase your Happiness, Everyday.

As always, I wish you much Love, Joy, and Wisdom!

Zafira Labadi
Happiness & Wellness Coach & Mentor
Committed to Helping You Lead a Happier Life!
Tel. 00962-7-77225590


Posted by: joy.or.above | July 24, 2012

My Wish For YOU!

  My Wish For YOU!

   I hope the days come easy,
  And the moments pass slow.
  And each road leads you
  Where you want to go.

And if you’re faced with a choice
And you have to choose,
I hope you choose the one
That means the most to you.

And if one door opens to
Another door closed,

I hope you keep on walkin’
Till you find a window…

If it’s cold outside,
Show the world
The warmth of your smile…

But more than anything….
My wish for you,
Is that this life becomes
All that you want it to.
Your Dreams stay BIG,

Your worries stay small.
You never need to carry
More than you can hold…


My Wish by Rascall Flatts

Remember to:

Live well,
Laugh often, and
Love much!

May All Your Dreams Come True!


To learn how to Set Goals and Achieve  Your Dreams,
Enroll in one of the Coaching Toward Happiness Programs!
Call or email to schedule a free Consultation Session!
You will learn new ways to increase your Happiness, Everyday!

Zafira Labadi
Happiness & Wellness Coach
Committed to Helping You Lead a Happier Life!
Tel. 00962-7-77225590



Happy Ramadan!
To All of You
The Holy Month!


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